ONTHOUD JE DROMEN...
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Veel mensen zeggen 'maar ik droom niet', dat is onzin. Je droomt wel maar je onthoud je dromen nog niet. Lees dit deel van mijn boek en pas deze simpele techniek de komende week toe en je vangt gegarandeerd een droom. Het boek is in het Engels geschreven omdat er buiten Nederland veel culturen zijn die de inhoud van dromen heel belangrijk vinden. Sara en ik doen ons best om Nederland op dat gebied ook wakker te maken.
The intention of this book is to help you understand the basics of the language of dreams so you can understand what your deeper self is telling you.
First of all to understand your dreams you need dream material. So you have to remember your dreams in the morning. The most effective way is to set an intention. When you go to sleep, tell yourself ‘I am present in my dreams and the first thing I will do in the morning is to remember them’. Catching dreams is like fishing, there is a thin line holding the dream when we wake up. In most cases we can only see a fragment like the fin of the dream or the tail. Our logical thinking wants to pull the line as fast as possible and remember as much as we can. But when we pressure ourselves to hurry up and remember the dream line usually breaks and the dream swims away. The best way to remember dreams is to lay still and use your senses. Bring all of your attention to the fragment you remember and feel. Stay present, that’s the way to catch the rest of the dream. Write it down as soon as possible. Dreams have the tendency to ‘evaporate’. It’s like part of us doesn’t want us to remember dreams and tries to erase their information. When I wake up in the morning with just a small fragment of a dream in my memory and there is this voice in me saying ‘ah forget about this stupid little part of the dream’ I become extra alert because I have learned that the most important dreams are the ones that are disqualified in my mind when I wake up.
Each morning we wake up in a game between two worlds that live within us. Both worlds try to capture the content of our dreams. These worlds are like two teams that are both eager to win. One team is the ‘forgetter’ team, it wants us to forget our dreams and it has many techniques available to take them to the area of oblivion. This team in us is really skilled and it uses many techniques to make us forget. The most effective ones are:
Pre-programming: I wasn’t able to remember my dreams for a long time until I discovered that there was this subconscious voice I was listening to. It told me ‘you are not a person to remember your dreams’ and ‘you are too busy to remember your dreams’ and a very common one ‘dreaming is not for you, you don’t dream’. When these subconscious programs were running my system I woke up each day without a dream and the forgetter team had won again. I could only imagine my forgetter team high five-ing each other and celebrating their victory.
The illusion of effort: When you have to accomplish something that is not in your nature it is difficult and it takes a lot of effort. In most cases you will not make it because it’s hard. When you believe that it’s hard work to remember dreams it will become difficult for sure because you will block the possibility that the dreams will just fall into your lap without any effort. In my work I deal with people that dream at least four dreams each night and remember them in perfect detail. They all share the same relaxed attitude towards remembering; ‘of course I remember my dreams, how could I not?’
The action mode: this is the one in which the first suggestion on my mind after waking up is to take action. Make a cup of coffee, hurry up to go to work, answer some text messages, make a mental action list of the day. This prevents me from taking the time needed to remember my dreams and record them. I know it just takes a few minutes but ‘sorry, I have to run now’.
Disqualifying dream-information: these are the thoughts that come up when you have remembered parts of your dreams. They try to disqualify the information that you have. Common thoughts are ‘ these are just remains of the day’, ‘this is just part of a dream’, ‘this is totally irrelevant’ or ‘this detail doesn’t matter’. All information matters and that’s what the forgetter teams knows best. It is interesting to say the least that in almost 90 percent of dreams when I start explaining them, the dreamer adds extra information that is crucial for the message. Dreamers ‘forget’; cathedrals, bloody knives, orgies in the cellar and dead corpses. The kind of stuff that we definitely wouldn’t forget in daily life. Some dreams are life changing. I call them ‘key-dreams’. I am extra alert when a dream session starts with the dreamer saying ‘this is just a silly dream but I would like to share it anyway’. Big chance that this dream is one of the life changers.
It is possible to consciously beat the forgetter team. You just have to shift your attention to the other side that wants to be awake and remember dreams. Let’s call it the ‘awareness team’. The counter techniques are simple:
Observe the forgetter movements: just accept that part of you is eager to forget. Watch all of its amazing movements and realize that when it’s active it has something important to cover up.
Program yourself: tell yourself that you will remember your dreams in detail and you will write them down because it’s easy and it is important to you and your wellbeing.
Be patient: patience means that you have to be able to lie still for a few minutes after waking up. Just relax and bring your attention to aspects of the dream that you remember. Simply holding these aspects in your attention will probably do the job.
Open the letter: this sounds logical but in practice there are many dreams that people remember and even write down that are still left unopened. When you have access to specific dream material, take the effort to try to read it. Opening your own dreams requires a lot of skill and experience but sometimes you will manage to do it on your own.
The metaphor of the game between the ‘forgetter’ team and the ‘awareness‘ team suggests that we are in competition with our self. In one dimension this is true. There are two forces we can distinguish that apparently have opposite intentions. When we look at it from a higher perspective we see two aspects of a big self, sparring with each other like yin and yang. They need each other to play the game of awareness and help us remember who we really are. The next chapter will elaborate on these sparring partners. One of them is our ‘ego’; it’s the coach of the forgetter team. The other one is what I will call ‘soul’. That’s the one supporting the awareness team.
The DR method of dream interpretation puts you in the front row seat to observe a game of consciousness taking place inside of you. It’s first class entertainment and self-education for those that are willing to reflect.